Honesty: Am I Being Rude?

Just lately I've found myself in situations where my honesty could possibly be misconstrued as rude and that bothers me.

There's that thin line between being open and honest - which I LOVE in other people - and that place where people who enjoy honesty are just blunt, tactless and rude.

So where is that invisible border between saying it like it is and saying it when it shouldn't be said?

Examples:

Honesty: If you don't like the way your life is, why don't you make changes to be where you WANT to be?
Rude: SHUT the #### up!! I am really REALLY tired of hearing your incessant whining and complaining - shuuuuuuut up, shut up, shut up, shut up!!!

Honesty: You look much nicer in the red number.
Rude: Have you paid your electricity bill or did you get dressed in the dark on purpose?

Honesty: I reckon it's your shout, sweetie/mate and I'll have a.......
Rude: Listen up tightarse, how come you're always broke/poor/skint when we go out??? Why do you come out if you've got no money???

Honesty: I honestly like to spend time on my own. I really do enjoy my own company.
Rude: I'd rather poke myself in the eye with a rusty teaspoon than spend any more time than I have to with you.

Honesty: Size DOES matter.
Rude: Ohhhhhh how sweet, you brought an incense stick.

Honesty: Ohhhhh you (followed by)..................I don't believe you (laughing nervously).
Rude: You're full of shit. You're always full of shit.

Honesty: Your baby looks sooooooooo intelligent!!
Rude: THAT is one ugly little bubs - fell off the top branch of the ugly tree, did he?

You get my drift, right? I like being honest. Honesty is that suburb not many people visit but my train ALWAYS stops all stations on that line. I connect best with people who don't embellish the truth (or, at least, admit to embellishing the truth in order to make a boring story, interesting).

So...........if my honesty offends, I like to apologise because that is never my intention - to offend. My intention is not to lie as much as possible - plain and simple. I don't like or enjoy lying. I don't like telling you that what I'm  listening to falling from your mouth is enjoyable when it isn't. Of course, I'll inject my own humour to dull the blow but I like to live on a clean canvas.

Diplomacy is something I'm trying to master but it's really hard when the only language you speak is honesty.

Truth is (oh here I go again....), everybody lies - just not ALL the time. So, if we're friends, let me know if you'd rather me continue being honest or if you want the alternatives : lying to you or, worse, being rude. I don't want to do either but let's both be on the same page, yeah?

By the way, you've got spinach in your teeth and your husband is a sleezy creep.......